October 12, 2010

Belief and blessings

Posted in Pregnancy at 8:00 am by lifebytheday

I know that I’ve mentioned this in previous posts, but I still can’t quite believe that we are pregnant, and that we might actually have a baby in less than 8 months.  After four years, and especially after our most recent failed cycle, I honestly thought that a pregnancy and a biological child was just not in the cards for me.  Seeing a positive pregnancy test was literally as suprising and exciting as it would have been if we had been able to get pregnant naturally.

Besides the fear that I was never going to experience pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, etc…the hardest part was understanding why God was “doing” this to me.  I knew that God had a will and a plan and that there really wasn’t anything that I could do to change it.  I tried to focus on the fact that maybe God needed us to take care of one of his other children through an adoption, since he knew that we were going to be such good parents.  I just had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that God might not think my genes were worth passing on.  I know that sounds dramatic – and I know I’m not perfect by any means 😉 – but I did spend a long time wondering “what’s wrong with me?”

Now that I am actually pregnant with a child that is half mine and half S’s (wow, that’s the first time I actually realized that!), I’m feeling extremely blessed.  For better or worse, we’re going to get the chance to find out what S+me will look like, act like, be like.  I don’t think I’ve mentioned this here before, but I’ve always been fascinated by the nature/nuture debate.  Even though my major was in communications, my thesis researched the development of gender identity in toddlers.  I am just SO interested in child development, and can’t WAIT to have a little guinea pig of my own. 😛

I know that this post is kind of all over the place, but I guess that’s where my mind is right now.  I’m simultaneously hoping and praying that everything will look good on Friday, and trying to enjoy this phase in the meantime.  It would really suck to waste this time (potentially pre-morning sickness) just worrying. 😉



  1. jsutera654 said,

    I have to say, that fact totally intrigues me too – the whole “what will our child look like” with “our” genes combined?? Totally freaks me out but way cool all rolled into one, funny how that happens right?

  2. jolene1079 said,

    That was exactly what I was so curious about when Isabel was born – what my niece would look like from our genes! How fun. I am still SO excited for you and can’t wait to experience it all with you 🙂

  3. iamstacey said,

    Congratulations! It’s so exciting! I think that’s the most exciting thing for me, too – I can’t believe I get to see hubby + me in a whole new person that we made! It seems too good to be true. 🙂

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: